|To confront means to deal with a problem or difficult situation. To confront also could mean to make someone face a difficult person.|
Confrontation is a normal part of communication within relationships, and is essential for constructive progression of that relationship.
Zambia is a Christian nation meaning, her people manly the leaders ought to be God fearing people whose way of resolving issues is based on the bible.
Every problem or conflict should be solved in the light of the Bible. It will further mean that, we will not tarnish our brother’s name or Sister who differs with our opinion.
But will carefully follow the steps or scriptures to help us resolve our issues.
Solving any issue using force or rather violence will hinder God’s ears to listen to our prayers, will hinder God’s hand to reach out and save Zambia .
God says to Zambia ,”if you Zambians shall humble yourselves, seek my face and turn away from your wicked ways, then I will hear from hear from heaven, forgive your sins and heal your land.”(2 Chronicle 7:14, Isaiah 59:1-2).
We should stop cooking lies about each other.
We should instead call for justice; plead our cases with integrity. It’s shameful to rely on empty arguments and speak lies; let there be justice in our path and let anyone who moves there find peace.
In my opinion doing politics God’s way is the best , unlike the devil’s way! The devil wants blood to be shade from innocent people, he the devil promotes insults, bad language and violence.
Why is confrontation so Scary? As sinners, we spend much of our time hiding from, excusing, or blaming others for our sin.
In Genesis 3: 8-13 Adam and Eve knew that they had disobeyed God, as they were hiding from Him. We also see excuses being made and blaming taking place. Sinners (Which are all of us) don’t feel comfortable when their lives are under inspection. We tend to be better at seeing the speck in the eye of our neighbour than the log in our own eyes Mathew 7:1-5.
We dread confrontation because we don’t like to look at our sin, but also because of the unbiblical and troublesome way we’ve seen it handled.
Confrontation is often marred by improper judgment of the person or situation. Confrontation is often always done without love and the use of condemning words, which should not be so.
The Problem is that confrontation often takes place within a non-existent or broken relationship and people tend to demand a change immediate of that people rather than knowing that it is a process for a person to change and a person does not change overnight.
What is the purpose of confrontation? To challenge someone to stop and reconsider their words and actions, especially if they-contradict the word of God. Eg .
If someone teaches their children that they have to wait until marriage before having sex, but is committing adultery in their own marriage.
The other purpose of confrontation is to help people see the contradictions and consequences in what they have said and done. It is to encourage them to take responsibility for words and actions, and often then motivated to change the behaviour.
2 Samuel 12:1-16. Nathan was called by God to confront King David. Surely David knew the law of the Lord.
Why wasn’t he conscience-stricken? Why wasn’t he eaten up with conviction of sin? Why did he need someone to stand before him and point out what should have been so obvious?
This is God’s commitment to intervene in blindness and rebellion with his redemptive grace.
What a powerful reminder of our need for intervention! We also need God to raise up people who are willing to accept the hard job of helping us to see ourselves as God does.
Hebrews 3:12-15. See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God.
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
We have come to share in Christ if we hold firmly till the end the confidence we had at first. As it has just been said: Today, if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion.
Being a Christian does not mean that we are free of spiritual blindness or the potential for self-deception. As long as there is indwelling sin, spiritual blindness and self-deception will exist.
We all need daily encouragement so that indwelling sin would not blind us.
People should always have a motive of love when confronting a person and not anger, frustration or insecurity otherwise the person may feel criticized, condemned and rejected.
The goal of confrontation is to benefit the person, not me. Remember something, the context must be in trust-you need to earn the right to confront relationship building.
You may ask, but what are the proper elements in biblical confrontation? Will look at nine biblical models of confrontation. Firstly, Exam your heart.
Confrontation always begins with you. Be sure that you have dealt with your anger, impatience, self-righteousness and bitterness.
When we start with our own confession, we are in a much better place to lead others to confess.
Secondly. Note your calling. Confrontation is not based on your opinion of the person. Your job is to faithfully represent the message of God. Your goal is to help people see and accept God’s view of them.
Thirdly, check your attitude. Are your words spoken in kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness, compassion and love? Failure to do this will hinder God-honouring, change-producing confrontation.
I am sure a person can listen when we are humble and gentle while speaking unlike screaming , insulting our friends to prove how wide our mouth can open.
Point number four, own your own faults. You must enter moments of confrontation with a humble recognition of who we really are. Romans 3:23 says “For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.”
As we admit our own need for the Lord’s forgiveness, we are able to be patient and forgiving with the one to whom God has called us to minister.
Key number five .Use words wisely. Effective confrontation demands preparation, especially of our words. We Need to ask God to help us use words that carry his message, not get in the way of it.
The sixth point is that, always reflect on the scriptures. The bible guides what we say and how we say it. You should enter confrontation with specifics understanding of what scripture says about the issues at hand.
Nevertheless, key number seven is very important. Always be prepared to listen.
We need to give the person an opportunity to talk, since we can’t look into his heart or read his mind or her mind.
Most relationships and marriages are drowning like a sinking Titanic ship because each partner cannot give each other chance to listen.
Our people are also dying because other doctors or nurses cannot have time to listen when a sick person is crying.
Road accidents, claiming lives because our drivers fails to listen when The road says do not over speed or do not send sms with your phone while driving.
Most political leaders are not in good relationship with people, because they could not listen to the wishes of people who voted them. So please listen!
Point number eight. Always grant time for a response. Give the Holy Spirit time to work.
Change is usually a process, so don’t expect the person to confess and repent in one sitting.
Lastly, encourage the person with the gospel. It is the awesome grace of God, his boundless love, and His ever-present help that give us a reason to turn from our sin. Romans 2:4 ….God’s kindness leads to repentance.
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth gives way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.”(Psalm 46:1-3)
May God give you wisdom to confront! As you use the biblical formula am sure growth shall appear in your relationship.
If your partner, workmate or any of your close family members is doing wrong, my advice is that, there is hope for a biblical confrontation to resolve your issues and relationships shall be healthy with the biblical confrontation. Remember to forgive, do not carry bitterness in your heart. The goal of confronting is to restore a brother or sister and not to destroy a person, bearing in mind that we all stumble and always treat others the way you would like to be treated when in contempt .Do not judge or condemn when confronting.
Use your words wisely bearing in mind abusive words won’t gain you any dignity.
Now go and resolve your issues freely. Know that you are loved when you are confronted. Always respect people in Authority and above all your parents and elderly people among you, do not be bitter when confronted in love.
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